Kyra Sedgwick’s Secret to Healthy Marriage With Kevin Bacon: ‘Sex Is Important’

Kyra Sedgwick and Kevin Bacon have been married for 23 years, which even by non-Hollywood standards is quite an impressive feat. And the secret to their longevity is pretty simple: "I'm going to embarrass my kids — sex is important," the "Closer" actress tells Redbook in its April issue. "Sex is really important. That desire is there." Luckily for Sedgwick, 46, it's not hard to muster the desire for her hunky husband. Even all these years, she says "the essence" of what she finds most attractive about him "hasn't really changed. When he walks into a room, I'm still … I mean, my heart gets a little fluttery and I think, 'Oh! He's so cute. He's so hot.' That's literally the first thing I think. You can ask people on the set — it's palpable. He's still a mystery to me. And getting older together is scary and exciting."
Sedgwick and Bacon also had to weather the difficulty of keeping their marriage intact while working and living on opposite coasts of the country. While she filmed "The Closer" in Los Angeles, he stayed behind in New York City to care for their two children, Travis and Sosie, now 23 and 20 respectively. The time apart "was heartbreaking," she tells Redbook. "I missed stuff — events, performances — but we kept trusting that it was going to be ok." The time apart also affected her relationship with her children, but not necessarily in a negative way. "It became more special when we were together," says the actress. "Maybe they appreciated me more because I wasn't around all the time? And I wasn't in their business every freaking second — because I am controlling, for sure."